My dear friend Maggy runs a brilliant Twitter account about how, with the right mindset, ageing can be a joyful process. Check out @AgeingBetter for all sorts of wonderful links, cartoons and inspiration from which we can all benefit, whatever age we are. It is such an important message, perhaps one of the very few [...]
Does the title of this post sound familiar? Is it, of a version of it, something you say to yourself in the morning as you press 'snooze' yet again? Or how about late at night when you are working through your favourite Box Set, even though you know in your heart that you should go [...]
I was intrigued by this short article from Tricycle.org about the importance of learning to control our emotions. Although I work hard to remain calm and present in my dealings with others, I do not always succeed. I find it all too easy to get wound up by trivial daily irritations, such as technological glitches [...]
It's common, as we move towards the start of a new year, to ask oneself questions about how we can improve/be different/more like the person we want to be. Your Future Self can be your best friend when it comes to making positive life changes. Here's why. “The future depends on what you do [...]
Human beings are works in progress that mistakenly think they're finished. ~ Dan Gilbert Being in the grip of a crisis can be all consuming. So much so that whatever problem we are facing can eclipse all other perspectives about our lives. As Rachel found when she was losing her hair, it is difficult, [...]
How many of us have been in the position of needing to talk to someone about a problem, only to find that they seemingly take over the conversation? When we put our stories on the line, it can be very dispiriting to hear 'I know exactly what you mean, X happened to me and I....'. [...]
Following on from my last post about people saying hurtful things, I remembered that I wrote this a few months ago on my other blog, Leaping Life. It emphasises that we are all challenged by others who may speak thoughtlessly without meaning to. The onus is on each of us to model better behaviour by making the effort to be thoughtful and kind.
Since having Alopecia, I have had more interactions with strangers than ever before. Other ‘Alopecians’ will confirm that being ‘different’ appears to present an open invitation to speak freely. Whilst in a sense this is a good thing, maybe freedom of speech should come with spoiler alerts or health warnings. As Liz mentions, these people don’t mean to be negative but the impact of what we say to another person can be catastrophic. A less dramatic example of this is when people say to me”great eyebrows”. Now, I have had a ongoing saga with my eyebrows – having Alopecia universalis means I have total loss of hair – so when, after the umpteenth time my eyebrows are finally acceptable to face the world, I then try to forget they’re there. However, when a random person makes a comment, something I have never encountered before (it’s not a normal thing to say, is it?), and they think they are being encouraging and supporting, the fact is it puts me in a place of negatively and mild paranoia. Family and friends know to be on eyebrow alert as it is easy to forget they are not permanent and can be inadvertently smudged – something my dearest daughter excels at!
Maybe the thing to consider before speaking is would I like to hear what I am about to say?
We are very excited at the moment because Hub has decided to retire early next July. Although we still have some months to wait for this big event, and of course we do not want to wish our lives away, we are enjoying talking about how things will be different when he embarks on this new chapter in his life.
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